What do you need?

Asking "What do you need?" with genuine intent can reveal more than just immediate requirements. It can foster deeper understanding and connection, particularly in communities where traditional roles shape identities and responsibilities.
  • The Niles
  • January 30th, 2025
What do you need?
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When asked with care, attention, and a readiness to listen, the question “What do you need?” opens the door to connection and understanding. Women are often expected to take on caretaking roles, profoundly connecting them to nature and the resources that sustain their communities. This responsibility extends beyond their immediate families, positioning them as stewards of the land entrusted with managing and protecting vital natural resources.

The same systems that oppress women often exploit and degrade nature, reflecting a broader disregard for nurturing and care. These systems elevate qualities like aggression, dominance, and control — usually labelled as masculine — while undervaluing traits traditionally associated with femininity, such as empathy, collaboration, and care. The result is a culture of competition, exploitation, and a relentless drive for dominance. This system is known as patriarchy.

In this edition, The Niles journalists delve into the roots of the constraints imposed by patriarchal systems and cultures. They offer solutions drawn from diverse experiences, traditional knowledge, and modern innovations. While these solutions provide a path forward, their success depends on recognising that both men and women are participants in the patriarchal system — and both can be part of the solution. At the core of all human existence lies the answer to the same question: What do we need? The answer encompasses four basic needs: survival, well-being, freedom, and identity.

As we explore what it means to be well, free, and belong, it becomes clear that these concepts are inextricably linked with our identities. In many Nile Basin cultures, womanhood and manhood are often confined to traditional definitions. But what happens when these roles are challenged? When individuals step outside the boundaries of these expectations and assert their need to live fully?

The journey that follows is not merely about personal survival or well-being; it is a broader pursuit of the freedom to redefine what it means to be a woman or a man in these societies. It is a continuous effort towards belonging to a community that recognises and values individuals for who they are rather than confining them to predetermined roles based on gender.

When women and men alike begin to question and push against these traditional confines, they are not just seeking to expand their own horizons — they are also paving the way for a more inclusive and equitable society — a society where caregiving, nurturing, and maintaining the social fabric are seen as valuable contributions from all members and where qualities like empathy and collaboration are valued alongside strength and leadership.

This same spirit of redefinition and challenge is essential in Nile Basin cooperation. As countries within the region navigate complex water management, resource sharing, and environmental sustainability issues, women’s leadership — grounded in empathy, collaboration, and a deep connection to the land — becomes crucial. Women leaders are not just advocating for equitable resource distribution; they are also reshaping the framework of cooperation to include voices and perspectives that have traditionally been marginalised.

If more women were to take on leadership roles within this context, a leadership style rooted in collaboration, empathy, and care could emerge as the dominant approach. This shift would encourage others to adopt these values, creating a ripple effect that could strengthen cooperative efforts across the Nile Basin. In this way, women’s leadership would not only influence the outcomes of cooperation but also transform the very nature of leadership itself, paving the way for a more inclusive and sustainable future for the entire region.

Through these acts of defiance and redefinition, we see the emergence of a new narrative — one where men and women are not bound by the limitations of patriarchal structures but are free to build identities and communities that reflect the diverse and dynamic nature of human existence. This is the story that unfolds in the pages of this edition, offering us all a glimpse of what is possible when we dare to ask: What do you need? And how can we work together to remove the obstacles in our path?